Wait, think, and wait before the buy
You can see that, I’m an introvert. I like to think. Sometimes probably I think too much. Many years ago, one of my coworkers was joking about me. He said: “if you ask Helen what she likes to drink, she would say “Let me think about it””.
Today, I like to talk about wait, think, and wait, before you make the purchase decision. Here I’m mainly referring to the big-item purchases, or something that can wait.
This definitely doesn’t include buying a lunch. Otherwise, after the wait, think, and wait, I would be already starved to death before figuring it out.
Where did this idea come from?
The truth is that, this idea came from GYM of her great article “7 Easy Ways to Add a Little Minimalism to Your Life (and Save Money Too!)”.
GYM said: “Last year, I did an alternate month no spend clothing (or other material thing) ban. If I really wanted something I would have to wait until the following month. This made me re-evaluate the clothing item that I ‘needed’ to see whether it is really necessary.”
You see? I used her word Wait, and swapped her word Re-evaluate with Think, and added another Wait to disguise my shameless action: borrowing her idea without getting her permissions.
My purchase of furniture:
When I bought my first house, it was a brand-new one. Living below the means is not easy to do.
Before then, I lived in a one-bedroom apartment. All of my furniture was used ones. After the old furniture was moved in, I saw two big issues.
One issue was: the house was still pretty much empty. The second issue was: the old furniture and the shiny new house simply didn’t match.
I did something right, and something wrong.
I spent way too much money on the new furniture in a rush. That was a bad call. I should wait, think, wait, and then purchase one set at a time.
When buying all the furniture together, it was a daunting task. My main focus was to get it done quickly. Money was not the top factor to consider. That was dumb.
For some furniture., the usage was really low over the years. What a waste of money! Probably someone should run a business like Uber for furniture? People share and rent the furniture when needed?
My old dining set:
Luckily, my old dining table/chairs from the apartment stayed, and have been used for almost 20 years. This was the right call.
At first, I felt it didn’t match the house. Over the years, I fell in love with it, and the mismatch didn’t bother me anymore.
Let me rephrase it. Probably, I got used to it (like an old couple getting used to each other). And I became more cautious on the money spending.
It’s solid oak wood. The table is expandable on two sides. It also fits very well to my current house. I’ll keep using it. Why not? It’s good stuff.
My current yard has low chain-link fence. It is decades old. The ugly fence didn’t impress me when I first looked at this house.
After moving in, my plan was to replace it with the beautiful vinyl fence. I even got a couple of quotes. It’s very expensive, and could cost around $10K.
You know what? After years of calling it home, I changed my mind. The chain-link fence doesn’t look that ugly anymore. Fence doesn’t have to be that fancy, as long as it does the job (sort of).
And there are some advantages of chain-link fence:
- It’s durable and low-maintenance for sure, and vinyl one can’t beat it.
- I like my neighbors, and enjoy seeing them and chatting a bit over the low fence once a while. Their yard is a beautiful garden. Having a garden next to me is cool.
- With vinyl fence, yes, it has better privacy. But, it could be too isolating to me. Plus, it could block the beautiful views and nice breeze.
One day, my neighbor and I chatted about the fence. She told me that, they also planned to replace the chain-link fence at the beginning. After a while, they got used to it as well.
I’m glad I waited, and didn’t rush to spend the money. That was a good decision.
Why wait, think and wait?
It gives us time and space to cool down, digest the buy urge, think rationally, and make a better decision.
Our mind changes over time. The wait, think and wait allow us to change the mind freely without any financial regret.
The items are on sale everyday. Don’t worry, and you won’t miss a thing. I know those retail stores don’t like to hear this.
No matter the purchase is about a house, car, set of furniture or fence, we are talking about thousands of dollars. That’s quite a lot of money for a regular family.
There is nothing wrong about buying it. But, we got to make sure that’s really what we need or want. Nobody wants to see our own hard-earned money wasted.
Questions to you:
- Do you buy things quickly, or wait and think first?
- Did you ever get something, and found out later that’s not exactly what you need or want?