Why rush? Slow Down
Life is getting faster and faster. Does it mean life becomes better and better? Not necessarily. Speed is not equal to quality.
I’m in my early 50s, and retired. Why should I rush? I got a lot of hours every day at my disposal. I’m the gal who stays on the slow lane on the highway, and drives around the speed limit.
Slow Down is my motto. Let me explain it.
Slow down when driving:
About 15 years ago, I was at work. I know, it sounds like Sophia in the comedy The Golden Girls: “Picture it, Sicily, 1922…”, right?
Anyway, I was rushing to a meeting with clients in the early morning. It just snowed, and the road was not that good. I was frustrated about the road condition, and the traffic, as I was getting late.
Stopped at one traffic light, I was trying to find my cell phone, so I could call my boss. Unfortunately, my foot on the brake loosened a bit, while I was fussing around. And I slightly hit the bumper of the car that stopped in front of me.
Now, I was really going to be late.
We had to pull over to the gas station next to the traffic light. The driver in the other car was a very nice gentleman. I apologized, and we exchanged insurance information. He wrote his information on a business card.
Luckily, he never filed a claim with my insurance company. I’m very grateful for his kindness. There are a lot of great people there.
I have been keeping his business card in my purse for the last 15 years. Why? It’s always a reminder to myself: don’t rush when driving. Safety is the key.
Traffic is beyond everyone’s control. Just slow down, and take the time. Otherwise, rushing could cause bad things to happen: getting a speeding ticket, causing accident and injuries, and a lot of stress afterwards. Who wants those hassles?
Slow down when paying the bills:
You heard about the Easy Pay, Quick Pay? Just click, click, the bills are paid. Why rush?
I would always sit down, take a look at the details of the bills, and make sure there are no errors, no extra charges, and no fraudulent transactions. Then pay the bills. It won’t take long to get it done.
That’s my money. I like to slow down, and pay attention to where my money goes to. It’s worth spending the time to pay the bills, and manage the money.
When we are paid by the employers, it’s never an easy pay, correct? We have to work hard first. Then, they have to verify our time sheet, get the manager’s approval, and wait for the pay day, on and on.
Some TV commercials set bad examples. Here is a couple.
One bank promotes their online bill pay: a young dad, and his toddler. The lovely toddler is looking at the dad in awe with big smiles, and the dad is staring at his smart phone paying bills.
What a horrible commercial! Put the phone to the pocket, and dedicate time to the kid, please. The kid deserves dad’s full attention.
Another mortgage company shows that, how easy it is to get a mortgage from them. The client just clicked a few options, and within minutes, the mortgage is approved.
Come on, how many times do we get a mortgage in our lifetime? Only a few. Mortgage is a huge deal to our financial life. Spending time to do the homework, shopping/comparing, and reading through the fine lines is a must. We can’t afford to rush a mortgage, period.
Slow down when travel:
Are you a fast traveler, or a slow traveler? I’m a slow one. That’s one of the reasons I don’t like to travel with a tour group.
As you know, the tour group is always go go go. Get up at 5 AM, catch up the bus, stop at one place for only a couple of hours, then rush to the next one. Coming back to the hotel at 10 PM, people are totally exhausted, and wondered: what did we see today?
I love to travel in my own pace. Just sit down, observe, listen, and day dream, at one spot for hours sometimes. I know, it may sound weird to you.
If I travel with others, it could drive them nuts. Can we go now? In their eyes, sitting there without doing anything is so boring. To me, it’s fantastic to enjoy the beauty, slowly and quietly.
If too tired some day, I won’t go anywhere. Just stay at the hotel, or wander around the close-by areas. Sometimes, no plan turns out to be the best plan.
Slow down in the daily life:
It may not be easy to do so, if you are still working, or having young kids or older parents to take care of.
Slowing down is good to our heath, both physically and mentally. It reduces stress, and gives us more time and energy to enjoy the moments of life. And it might help us to become more productive.
The smart phones bring a lot of convenience. But life is more hectic because of it. The never-ending work emails and texts are a big monster that has to be under control. The chit chat social media could take hours of precious time away without our consciousness.
The key is: make sure you control the phone, not the other way around.
Sometimes, it’s necessary to mute or even shut down the phone. Don’t hesitate or feel guilty to do so. Your life matters much more than the phone.
During the daily walking, I always leave the phone at home. In this way, I can enjoy the birds, flowers, trees, sunshine, blue sky, and anything the outside world offers. Plus, I don’t want to bump into the utility poles.
Some people try yoga, meditation, and mindfulness, which are good ways to slow down and relax.
Don’t rush. Slow down. You don’t have to wait for the retirement to do so. Work and house-related chores never end. Slowing down is great.
Do you like a slow life, or a fast life?